Being true to yourself

congruence

noun

Definition of congruence
1: the quality or state of agreeing, coinciding, or being congruent

How many people are really true to themselves. I mean really true. Following what they want to do, being who they really are, without worrying what other people will think of them and accepting inevitable criticism. The answer I expect is close to none. We are all mindful and concerned with the opinions of others, no-one is immune from this.

And this is perfectly fine, and in some respects, necessary for a harmonious society. Acting and behaving exactly how you want to could have ill consequences in a whole manner of ways.

How many people are really true to themselves

I am currently guilty of not being true to myself.

The story starts with a decision to leave my job this coming June and kick-start a career in coaching, supplementing with income from freelance writing. I have no professional experience in either, but that has never felt like an issue and still doesn’t. Some people thought I was brave, others thought I was being foolish.

I am half way through my life coaching course and trying to spend time writing along side it. But I actually feel like I’ve been trying to do a little bit of everything but actually done nothing of anything. The truth is I am not enjoying the coaching. I enjoy coaching in natural conversation, in managing, but not as a career. If I am true to myself, it is not something I want to pursue. I have spent a lot of money on the course and it almost feels like I will be letting people down if I stop. It’s irrational, I know.

I need to face up to this and be true to myself.

I don’t know where I’m going, but I love writing. Somehow I’ll make it. But coaching isn’t “it” and I need to face up to this and be true to myself.

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